Breastfeeding is Beautiful – A Photo Series

My journey into Motherhood has been many things; rewarding, surprising, exhausting and beautiful but what most surprised me was just how isolating it can be.

I have slowly found some incredible women to surround myself with that give me strength on the tough days, and make me laugh when we are going through exactly the same thing (and both thought we were the only one tempted to open the wine before 6pm)! This support network has been and will continue to be invaluable to me as my beautiful girl grows and challenges me more.

I believe firmly that in order for women to succeed, we must support each other and share experiences. When it comes to breast feeding there is no better way to learn this skill – that can come easily or leave you in tears.

I decided to create this photo series for any Mum’s that are struggling, or just need to know – it is worth it. Hang in there. Whether you are expressing every 4 hours day & night, mix feeding or managing to breastfeed through cracked nipples & pain – know that you are incredible. You are super woman. And you are supported.

The following photographs are of some beautiful women & their babies that have  kindly & bravely shared their experiences in the hope that it might bring a smile to your face or help you in some small way on your journey.

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This series was inspired after taking part in Medela’s ‘Big Breastfeeding Cafe’.

If you need support, or advice you can tweet their Education Manager and in-house Lactation Consultant, Sioned Hilton @Medela_UK or leave me a comment!

Please feel free to share in the comments your best piece of advice for any Mum’s that are in need of support.

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The Big Breastfeeding Cafe with Medela

Today was the big day! Hundreds of Mum’s across the country connected to talk all things breastfeeding & expressing thanks to Medela‘s Big Breastfeeding Cafe! I hosted a cafe at home & we had an amazing time!

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All set up, ready to go including some goodies from Medela to give out!

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Isla had to be the first to tuck into the strawberries of course… 😉

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Some of the top tips shared were: “Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to get it right the first time… Breastfeeding takes time to establish & that can be different for every baby even if it was easy with your first!”

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“Be patient, and don’t feel silly to ask questions/advice from friends or Breastfeeding specialists!”

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Nosy girls checking out cutie Bella getting changed! Haha!

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As you can see, my littlest guests didn’t think much of the chat!

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A big thank you to Gurgle Magazine for sending over a few copies of your latest issue for the ladies to enjoy! 🙂

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Isla took to her usual position of watching everyone eat… Haha!

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As you can see Mums & Babies all had a fantastic time sharing experiences, tips and advice! We talked about everything from best nipple creams to the best/worst advice we were given & how that impacted our breastfeeding/expressing journeys!

And one final piece of wisdom for any Mum’s struggling on their journey…

“Keep going, know that you are amazing & doing the best you possibly can for your baby every day!”

Thanks so much to Medela & Bump PR for organising such a great event for Mum’s all over the UK – it was great to be a small part of it! 🙂

Five Star Babies – Too Posh to Push?

The BBC have gone behind the scenes at the Portland Hospital – where woman pay £40k+ to give birth in luxury hotel surroundings. The synopsis states…

“The first episode reveals how the Portland Hospital’s army of consultants, midwives, chefs and cleaners serve some of the UK’s most pampered parents. We meet high-society it girl Hui, who isn’t ashamed to admit she is too scared to give birth naturally.

No-nonsense Scottish nurse Pat is adamant she is not star struck but baby struck as she looks after the newborns of celebrities and royalty while they enjoy afternoon tea.

And the Countess of Bradford reveals how her career as a consultant delivering newborns has a disastrous effect on her social life. “

Oh where do I begin? I just feel sad, baffled and confused after watching this programme. And I really didn’t expect to. I thought it would be light entertainment to have on in the background for my half-asleep standard new parent attempt to stay up past 9pm! But no, after watching through my fingers as the new mums declared just hours after giving birth that they must now start to worry whether or not their husbands will be cheating on them if they don’t get back into perfect shape right away… Is this the real world? I thought that was just a line that Hello & The Daily Mail fed you & we all ignored knowing it is COMPLETE NONSENSE! YOU JUST CREATED A HUMAN WITH YOUR BODY!!

Next we see 9 screaming babies in a nursery, as the Mum’s sleep through the night, eat their 3 course restaurant quality food & apply their perfect makeup and yet can’t even pick their own baby up… Why have a baby if you don’t want to be a mother? I’m all for Mothers getting the support they need, but where is Dad? Surely that’s who should be offering support, not flying in for a few hours to film the birth on his gold plated iPhone? The only thing your baby needs in the first few weeks is you. It’s that simple.

The consultants try valiantly to keep repeating their beautifully polished ‘PR friendly’ lines so they don’t get sued but you start to see the real frustrations as the midwives are more honest than their seniors and even recount tales of Mothers’ asking them to pass them a glass on the table next to them… Is this what money does to you? You literally can’t lift a finger. It’s as if they’ve been promised they won’t have to endure any pain or discomfort at all if they just throw all this money at it. Am I going to have to be the one that breaks it to them…? That’s not how it works.

Am I too old fashioned? Am I being naive…? Possibly. But it makes me sad for these babies that will grow up as a fashion accessory for the most part. To me, being a mother is about being completely selfless, whether you end up with stretch marks or an extra 15 lbs those things don’t matter when you get to watch this beautiful baby grow into a wonderful little person! Life is about so much more than you and being a mother is the quickest way to teach you that lesson.

Right at the end of the programme you see one mother who actually wants to deliver her baby naturally and wants to keep her baby by her side through the night. This should be seen as completely standard and yet after 50 minutes of bafflingly casual remarks about how they would ‘just die!’ if they had to look after their baby by themselves this becomes a great moment of relief. Thank goodness!! Someone showing some maternal instinct!!

What did you think of Five Star Babies? Would you consider having your baby privately after watching it? Tweet me @Poppy_Carter or join the conversation over on Facebook!

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Medela – The Big Review!

I can’t express…see what I did there… just how much I love my Medela Freestyle Pump. When you get it out of the box it might feel overwhelming with how many pieces there are but it’s amazingly easy to use, clean and put together! It’s so fast, quiet and comfortable. I was expressing every 3 hours to keep my supply up and try to keep up with Isla’s needs and the Freestyle made that so much easier for me!

 

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It comes with a shoulder bag & cool bag with freezer pack so you can express on the go!

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The Freestyle breast pump is the world’s smallest high-performance electric breast pump. It’s ideal for daily and frequent use with a single or double pumping option. The pump itself is small enough to hold in your hand – has a timer on the front so you can see how long you’ve been pumping & you can adjust how strong you want it to pump easily too.

Medela uses 2-Phase Expression as standard. The 2-Phase Expression is the only research based breast pump technology to mimic a baby’s natural nursing rhythm. It combines both rapid stimulation and slower expression so pumping is gentle, comfortable, and efficient.

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It’s so easy to clip together & take apart for cleaning – you’ll be doing it with your eyes closed in no time!

I was going to do my own pictures for this post, but these just amuse me so much for some reason… They demonstrate perfectly how the freestyle aspect of it works – but I’m sorry… I have never and will never look as glamorous as this woman while doing it.

You can buy the Freestyle Bustier separately & it’s great so you can crack on with something else – I even used it most days in the car to keep them in place safely & discreetly (only as a passenger!) .

Medela very kindly sent me their pump & save bags to try – which are so convenient! They pop straight onto the pump so you can pump your milk directly into the bags and put it straight into the freezer without having to risk losing one precious drop!

 

They also sent me the quick clean bags which we used loads when we went on holiday or were away from home. They’re perfect for cleaning bottles, teats, and much more. Each bag can be used up to 20 times, and will clean and disinfect in 3 minutes.

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Medela make a huge range of breast pumps to suit every need & they sent me the Harmony to try too. It’s a manual pump but still uses their 2-phase expression like the Freestyle. I found it worked just as well as the freestyle – but after a while I got tired of doing it and became less efficient. Also – having to pump one boob at a time wasn’t great for me. But if you are planning on breast feeding & expressing the other breast at the same time this would be perfect – as it’s silent and won’t disturb your little one. I used it mostly at night if Isla didn’t wake up for a feed just for some relief from engorgement.

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Both pumps express into the bottles that work with the amazing Calma teats that I have talked about before – but incase you missed it…

Calma is the only scientific based feeding device that helps to support the similar sucking behaviour of the baby at the breast. Calma is the unique teat for babies who are being breastfed with breastmilk, as it allows them to suck, swallow and breathe, as learned on the breast.

Calma requires a similar sucking behaviour to breastfeeding using the tongue to create a vacuum making it easier for babies to switch between breast and Calma. It’s the first and only teat to be introduced during breastfeeding to support the similar sucking behaviour of the baby at the breast.

Please note: Breastfeeding needs to be well established before introducing Calma. Calma is recommended for breastfed babies and not those who are currently bottle fed as they may find it difficult to feed.

A few other favourites that I’ve mentioned before are their disposable nursing pads. They are super soft & SUPER absorbent. They have two little sticky pads to stick directly onto the inside of your nursing bra & I never had a problem with them moving – even in the night! They are more expensive than some others on the market – but you get what you pay for & that really counts when the alternative leaves you with a drenched top mid-conversation with a stranger/postman/distant relative! I also loved the purlan 100 nipple cream – easy to use and does what it says it will! You can never use enough of this stuff! Plus the Hydrogel Pads were good for cooling relief  from cracked, sore nipples – they work amazingly well when put on top of the purelan 100!

 

I thought I’d include two of my favourite photos from my time expressing… This is Barney feeding Isla (in a hotel lobby!) the first time I managed to express enough to use the bigger bottle! A huge achievement!!

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And this is Isla first thing in the morning while I was using the Freestyle Pump – exactly what you need your hands free for – lots of cuddles!!

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So that’s it! I couldn’t love Medela more – from their incredible pumps to the amazing support they provide Mum’s on their journey – they are a wonderful company that I’m so thrilled to be working with!

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My Expressing Journey with Medela

In my last post for Medela I was right at the beginning of our Breastfeeding journey & if I’m honest, we were really struggling. I always thought of breastfeeding as the most natural thing in the world, so of course we would master it. I just didn’t think it could be so hard.

I was in hospital for the first few days after Isla was born & ended up being so overloaded with contrasting advice from all the midwives I just felt so frustrated and confused. Getting advice from a lactation specialist was exactly what we needed & I decided to ignore everyone else.

At first we were feeding really well & I thought it was plain sailing from there. I was so wrong… Aside from the bleeding nipples & toe curling pain, Isla started feeding for over 2 hours at a time & then still wanting more. I ended up dizzy, dehydrated and disheartened. Was I not producing enough milk? Am I ever going to be able to? Isla refused to stay latched on for more than a few seconds and only seemed to be satisfied after feeding from a bottle, so I started my expressing journey.

At first I tried the Avent single electric pump & would spend an hour attached to this deafening machine & only get a few sad ml’s of milk… I began to research pumps & found Medela! I started using the Freestyle Double Electric pump & within a few weeks I was able to get 200ml in just 15-30minutes. (Full review coming soon!) I don’t think I’ve ever been prouder of myself than the first time I fed her a full feed just from my milk!!

When I told any health visitor or nurse I was mostly expressing and feeding her (with Medela’s Calma teats to avoid nipple confusion) but still trying to keep breastfeeding, they all congratulated me and sounded impressed, like expressing was some great challenge. At first I just thought they were mad… but as the weeks went by I started to understand.

Exclusively expressing is a huge undertaking. Every 3-4 hours, day and night. If you haven’t eaten enough that day maybe you don’t make enough for the next feed & there really isn’t a worse feeling. Psychologically it can’t be good to put that amount of pressure on yourself. The second I finished expressing I had to feed Isla from that bottle as I could never make enough to get ahead to keep a stock in the freezer. By the time we got to month 3 I was struggling to keep going and felt so unbelievably guilty for wanting to quit. There are so many resources & support networks for breastfeeding mum’s but I struggled to find anything for expressing mum’s & I didn’t know anyone in the same situation to talk to. I finally opened up to my other half & told him how unhappy it was making me. A combination of hormones, lack of sleep and pressure led to me hating expressing when it had once made me feel so proud and happy.

We decided it would be ok to start mix feeding her to take off some of the pressure – what a relief I felt. I finally met a health visitor who made me feel like what I was doing was ok! Any breast milk is better than none – so whatever I could get would have to be enough and should be celebrated, and if it’s not enough – topping up with formula really isn’t the crime some people make you think that it is.

If you are reading this and struggling like I was, just know, you are amazing. Expressing can be hard and that’s ok. Even if you manage it for 1 week, 1 day or 1 year that is incredible and as long as you & your baby are happy then that’s all that matters.

If you are planning on exclusively expressing make sure you buy or rent the best pump you possibly can – without Medela I know I wouldn’t have been able to continue expressing for so long. I will write a full review soon but I can’t sing their praises enough – the Freestyle Double Electric Pump is easy to use, comfortable, and so efficient! Everything you could want!

Drink as much water as you can, don’t skip meals and try to sleep whenever you get a second. Most importantly, speak to someone about how you feel.

If you are expressing or are thinking about it & have questions or just want someone to talk to, tweet me, email me (poppy@adventureswithisla.com) or leave me a comment!

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My Breastfeeding Journey with Medela

One of the things that I had the most sleepless nights over before Isla was born was if I was going to be able to successfully breastfeed. At every appointment you go to it seems the midwife asks, ‘Are you going to breastfeed?’ and if you even slightly hesitate with your answer you get a 10 minute lecture on how ‘Breast is best’… And yes, I know that. And yes, I very much hope to be the perfect milk machine that you want me to be. But it isn’t so easy, all that pressure we put on ourselves really can’t help.

So I decided to take the pressure off and just tell myself that as long as my baby was fed – even if I have to express my milk all day & night, then I would succeed. I think the attitude you have about things can make all the difference in the world – and the support that you have, of course! So I’ve partnered with the wonderful Medela! For more than 50 years, Medela has developed from a small family owned company in Switzerland to a global producer of technologically advanced breastpumps and Medical Vacuum Technology, supporting Mum’s on their breast feeding journey.

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Getting advice can be wonderful – but the most important thing is to get it from an expert and ignore everyone else…Except me… don’t ignore me! 😉

Medela’s in-house lactation consultant, Sioned, has kindly offered some brilliant advice in response to my questions after my first few weeks breast feeding…

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1. The biggest problem we have when breastfeeding is that Isla won’t stop squirming and fidgeting – how can I calm her down when at the breast? If I try to hold her to the breast she gets angry & upset. Could my milk supply be coming out too fast for her?

When you first put baby on the breast there is minimal milk flow whilst she is stimulating your milk let-down reflex with lots of fast shallow sucks. When you trigger this the milk spurts and this can be occasionally overwhelming and baby will come off and fuss. This is perfectly normal, pop them back on and carry on. If it is affecting feeding try a different feeding position such as the laid back biological nursing position so that the nipple is positioned at the correct place in baby’s mouth and gravity helps her to manage the milk flow , a slightly elevated up right position can also assist here.

If baby keeps on slipping off look at a few different positions too and check latch.

As they mature through those early weeks to months they become more aware of their surroundings and want to engage with everything so that they fidget and turn and the least noise, stimulation, voice etc. Try a quietened room, minimise distractions and to keep focus you could wear a play bead necklace such as breastfeeding beads so that she has a focus, also try singing or reciting a story.

It is unlikely to help using swaddling as a containment method as it is important that baby is in a correct position to feed and need their hands to stimulate the breast.

Around 3-4 months their teeth buds are also moving under the gums so the gums may be a little tender.

There are other reasons why babies fidget whilst feeding – to trigger an additional let-down reflex as the milk flow slows as well as if they are under the weather and have congested noses they come off and mouth breathe.

2. Isla keeps falling asleep at the breast, but if I move her wakes up and cries, what should I do so I don’t end up feeding for hours at a time?

Falling asleep at the breast is what all mammals do. It is only humans that have evolved to think that this is wrong or habit forming. She feels safe and secure with you, is warm and is reassured with your smell and body sounds. She doesn’t get angry but scared, she is dependent on you and this is a primeval instinct to keep her safe and near you.

Some things to try is to wear an item of clothing such as a muslin square next to your skin and chest and when you place her in her crib place this with her, placing a bra pad with you milk essence is also useful as she can smell you near her. She may find that the crib is scary because there are no boundaries – one of the techniques used with premature infants supporting safe sleeping is to roll a small hand towel / tea towel up like a sausage and make a U place baby in the U with legs over the bottom edge bottom tucked in an the upper parts supporting the torso – baby feels secure and safe and cannot roll or be smothered. Your baby will resist moving but if you know she has fed well try placing her in her pram or bassinet and keep on the move by rocking or walking it will soon adapt. It’s not habit forming just nurturing.

3. I’ve found it very difficult to find any information for Mum’s that wish to exclusively pump their breastmilk & bottle feed it to their baby – Is there any reason I shouldn’t exclusively pump? Does it affect my milk supply?

It is your decision entirely how you choose to feed your baby. Getting all the information provides you with the ability of making an informed choice.

Breastfeeding is the easiest and best option but you can also breastmilk feed and both you and your baby benefit from the health, developmental and immunological factors that are the same as breastfeeding.

For some mothers they have no choice but to exclusively pump and this can be because of prematurity of the baby, baby cannot breastfeed because of feeding challenges such as sucking difficulties, cleft palate, medical difficulties and sometimes it can be because mum has inverted nipples, previous trauma that can be psychological / or abuse or nipple pain.

It is a balancing act as you have to mimic how your baby would feed and would be pump dependant as well as still feeding your baby and caring. This means that you would need to express exclusively day and night 8-12 with no longer than 4-5 hours between night sessions.

There is no reason why you cannot exclusively express if this is your decision – getting a good double pump and correct shield size is key for long term expressing with good milk drainage and frequent pumping sessions. Supporting this routine with lots of skin to skin time with your baby can support you and maximise your milk supply.

The plus side of breastfeeding is that physical contact that enhances the oxytocin surge, mental well-being but you can still get this through skin to skin cuddles, and the time spent feed, cuddle, reassure , put your feet up and feed whilst with expressing you can delegate the feed to others but you still need to commit to pumping, sterilising, storing and warming the milk.

A massive thank you to Medela & Sioned for their wonderful support & advice. My breastfeeding journey is off to a great start!

What have been the biggest challenges for you? And how did you over come them? Leave me a comment below or on my Facebook or tweet me @Poppy_Carter